How can i become a more confident and less negative person?

Im very lacking in confidence. I dont like to admit it but its true. I dont know why im like it, but im very shy, quiet, like a shrinking violet.



I dont want to continue to be perceived in this way.



I have been at university and had a couple of problems which knocked my confidence and has made me quite negative of everything.



I want to be a likable person. I dont want people distancing themselves from me.

How can i become a more confident and less negative person?
Hi there,



Well you have already started getting there! well done.



By facing the percieved issue you have started to deal with it, the way to handle your feelings is to imagine that you are an actress and on stage. Pretent your role is that of a confident and stong person, try to maintain the role over long periods of time and eventually you will find that part of this role will become part of the real you.



Good luck
Reply:Overcome it
Reply:Look in the mirror and realize all the good things about yourself, all your talents, abilities, looks, etc. Everybody has faults, it is part of being human. And also, be yourself, you'll find friends that can make you and break you, but don't make any friends if they dont know the real you.

Nobody's perfect, but we can come close ;)
Reply:First see the good things not the bad things of somebody and yourself. Just be yourself and believe in yourself
Reply:click and read you may learn some tools to be more confident.

www.mindtools.com/selfconf.html

Think positively.

When you are in bed at night just focus and keep saying Iam not shy I am an interactive person. after a while you'll become better.

Try to obtain good knowledge about life, science, politics ...etc, since this will provide you with confidence when you are talking to others
Reply:Oh gosh! i'm in the EXACT same problem.. i feel just like you.. it's horrible. I haven't found my way out yet.. but.. i've tried to just stay polite and respectfull(unless that person isn't to you.) and.. well try to fight through it! Maybe try to go out and find different people to meet, somewhere else than around your university. It's hard.. and takes time, but meeting new people really helps. Look at yourself, and tell yourself your a great person, and keep your head up. If i find my way out of this crappy time, i'll totally get back to you.



Good luck!
Reply:Stop caring. You sound like a decent person. Do whatever you want when you want. Your confidence was shakien because you put yourself out there. But you can never build it up if you act like a wall flower.



Plan do something that scares you. Challenge yoursefl.
Reply:I'd soon bring ya out o' ya shell bud, just give me a tinkle %26amp; we'll set the ball rolling hey?.....
Reply:HI looking at your card and the time you have been here the amout of people you have answered and helped .... Seem your a very smart young lady... We all take knocks and something it hurt us more than other.. But as you fall you get right back up and just keep going .. I think you could do with some one listing to you . Tis ok to ask for a bit of help and understanding . .No one is going to think less of you .. GOOD LUCK AT UIN and dont let anything stop you being you as for being a shrinking violet well they to are beautiful flowers .... SMILE YOU HAVE GOT THIS FAR